Once you embark on the divorce process, you might begin to feel lonely and wish to re-enter the dating scene to find a new partner in life. You have good intentions and, of course, everyone deserves to be happy, but dating before your divorce is finalized is a big mistake that can have an impact on your personal life and on the outcome of your divorce case. Instead of rushing into something new, it is best to take this time to engage in a little introspection as you go through the process of dissolving your marriage.
Continue reading to learn about some of the biggest reasons why you should wait until after your divorce is finalized before you begin dating again:
It Could Further Strain Your Relationship with Your Soon-to-Be Ex-Spouse.
Since you are getting a divorce, chances are your relationship is not doing so well to begin with, but you should still try to avoid souring the relationship even more. No matter who started the process, the truth is that it will not be easy to see your former spouse with someone new so soon.
It Will Likely Make Co-Parenting Even More of a Challenge.
Not only will dating before your divorce is finalized make it difficult to settle amicably with your spouse, but it will also hurt your future relationship as co-parents if the two of you share children, especially if he or she thinks you cheated on them. Even if you do not care about your ex-spouse’s feelings, you should still care about how this will impact your children. Co-parenting after a divorce is already tough enough as it is, so try not to add another layer of obstacles to it.
It Can Have a Negative Impact on Your Kids.
The divorce process will take up some of your time. If you also have a job and are trying to dive back into the dating pool, this leaves little room for your children who are also going to need help coping with the changes brought on by your divorce. Instead of spending time looking for a new partner so soon, devote your time to helping your children get used to the idea of their parents living separately. They are going to need a lot of support and love to get through this.
You Need Time for Yourself.
If you really want to start a new, healthy relationship, you need to do a little self-reflection first. It takes two people to end a marriage, and if you do not take the time to figure out what you could have done differently, you will likely make the same mistakes again.
It Might Raise Questions Regarding Your Fidelity During the Marriage.
As a no-fault state, Florida has no direct consequences for dating before a divorce is finalized. However, openly dating could leave you vulnerable to attack from your spouse. They could use this relationship as evidence that you were unfaithful while married to them. Even if these claims are easily disproved, you would still need to take the time to do so in court. Your spouse might fight you tooth and nail for things that previously never mattered simply to spite you. Your divorce could end up getting dragged out for far too long, resulting in higher expenses.
It Could Affect Property Division.
Florida is an “equitable distribution” state, meaning it distributes assets based on what is fairest to each spouse. Property division is therefore based on each person’s standard of living after the divorce. If one person is a stay-at-home parent, for example, they will likely be awarded a greater portion of the assets to keep them fed and healthy.
New relationships sometimes move quickly. People can fall in love and move in together in less than a year. If you are living with a new partner, the court can use this fact to determine property distribution. They may believe that, since you have a new live-in partner, you have a greater amount of support. Courts can even use gifts from your new partner as evidence that you have greater assets. This could leave you with fewer of the marital assets.
This scenario also applies to spousal support. The court can look at your current situation and determine that you are in less need of support. Imagine that your new relationship also ends abruptly. Then you would be without the support of both your former spouse and your ex-partner.
It Could Affect Child Support.
Like property division, a new live-in partner could affect child support. Child support is meant to be granted in the “best interest of the child.” If your new relationship appears to provide a high standard of living for the children, courts could grant you less money to help care for them.
It Could Affect Child Custody.
Courts always want what is in the best interest of the child. If you fall in love with someone, your spouse could attack this new person’s character. They could argue that being around this person is unhealthy for the children. If the court agrees, they could grant your spouse sole custody of the kids.
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