Many of us regularly use social media and have accounts on a variety of different platforms, such as Facebook or Twitter. Although these are often a great source of entertainment and a helpful tool for maintaining or forming new connections, using social media during your divorce is a risky proposition that can cost far more than you will ever expect. Given the gravity of the situation, it is best to err on the side of caution and avoid social media altogether at this time.
The Risks of Continued Social Media Use
Social media provides a wealth of information for anyone who knows how to use it. Even if you kicked your security settings up a few notches, chances are high that one of your mutual friends will eventually relay some of your posts to your spouse. Nothing is as private as you think it is. Moreover, even if you choose to delete something later on, someone may have already taken a screenshot.
Not all social media users log into their Facebook accounts to post long angry rants about their spouse. It should go without saying that doing so will be to your detriment in court, especially if you have children. However, there are less obvious risks involved in using social media. For example, using the check-in feature can reveal a lot about how you spend your time, where you spend your money, and the nature of your lifestyle. Even without explicitly sharing this information, much can be gleaned from this simple act.
For some, staying off social media entirely might not be possible, however. If that is the case for you, it is crucial to use it with caution and avoid sharing anything personal.
Here are some tips for you to follow:
- Do not discuss the details of your divorce.
Remember, the opposing legal team is looking for anything they can use against you. If you make public statements about your divorce, you can bet they will pick your words apart. A skilled attorney can twist and manipulate what you say, no matter how innocuous it is.
- Ask close friends and family members not to discuss your divorce online.
Another’s opinion of your divorce should not be held against you. Ostensibly, this is true. However, remember that your divorce is still a court case, and the other side wants a win. Your cousin’s feelings about your spouse still contain facts and details about your marriage. They could accidentally reveal something that could be used against you.
- Disable the feature that allows others to tag you in photos.
You want to avoid displaying any details about how you are living. Imagine you are fighting for spousal support which you desperately need. Your friend invites you out for a night on the town and pays for everything. Suddenly, there are pictures of you in a fancy nightclub, dressed up, drinking an expensive martini. Theoretically, this should have no bearing on your case, but the opposing team can argue that you’re frivolously spending money and do not need support. Even though the claim is easily disproved, it still takes time and money to fight this baseless accusation in court.
- Do not post memes that joke about marriage or anything that seems related to your current situation.
There is a lot of talk these days about “cancel culture” and jokes being taken out of context. It’s easy for someone to take your facetious words seriously and use them against you. Always be aware that the opposing team is watching your every move, gathering information and ammunition against you.
- Do not share any photos.
Just like asking your friends not to tag you, don’t post any pictures yourself. Nothing is off-limits to the opposition. A friend standing innocently in the background could be used to accuse you of an affair. Just leave posting alone for now, and you’ll be able to regain control of your social media when the divorce is over.
If you are unsure about a social media post, chances are it is best not to share it. Try to use good judgment and, if necessary, ask your divorce attorney for advice. Whatever you do, do not jeopardize the outcome of your divorce with your social media habits.
Contact Our Knowledgeable Divorce Team Today!
If you are going through a divorce, you should consider taking a break from social media until it is finalized. You must also secure skilled legal representation to guide you through the process. At Conti Moore Law, PLLC, our law firm has more than 15 years of combined experience, which we will use to help you achieve your goals. We know how difficult this experience can be and will help you smoothly navigate, so you can pursue the future you deserve.
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