Divorces are common in the United States. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), roughly one-half of all marriages end in divorce. Those rates vary by state, with Maine and Nevada being the states with the highest rates of divorce.
While many people dread divorce, it isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes a divorce is the best decision you can make for yourself and your family. The following are seven signs that it is time for you and your spouse to get a divorce.
1. The First Sign of Abuse
If your spouse physically, mentally, or verbally abuses you or your kids, you should immediately retain a divorce attorney. The same is true if you have reason to suspect abuse of your children, particularly sexual abuse. Any amount of waiting could result in irreparable harm.
When dealing with an abusive spouse, you will want to get a restraining order and physically separate from your spouse as soon as possible. Filing for divorce will likely enrage an abusive spouse, so you should make certain that you and your children have a safe place to be after filing.
2. Irretrievable Finances
For some couples, managing family finances simply doesn’t work. Both parties can manage their finances independently. But when it comes to family finances, suddenly they find themselves deep in debt with no obvious escape. It is a sad situation to be in, especially if the love is still there, but divorce can prevent a financial collapse.
3. The Love Has Disappeared
A lot of people will say they married their best friend. And this is a good thing. But if you realize that you are no longer interested in being intimate with your best friend, it may be time for a divorce.
It isn’t uncommon for married couples to still be close friends but no longer love each other. If you find yourself in this situation, it is best to have a cordial divorce while maintaining the friendship.
4. Only Staying for the Kids
All too often, when a married couple has kids, they will stay married simply for the kids. While it is true that kids have a hard time growing up with divorced parents, they have an even harder time growing up in a household where parents are fighting all of the time.
It may seem counterintuitive, but if the only reason you are staying together is for the kids, you are better off divorcing.
5. Your Partner Won’t Make the Effort to Improve Things
Have you discussed the problems in your marriage with your spouse? Do they refuse to make the effort to make things better? If that is the case, it is time to get a divorce. When only one spouse is willing to do the work, nothing will ever get better and the marriage isn’t worth saving.
6. You Aren’t Being Given the Priority You Deserve
While there are some things that your spouse may reasonably prioritize above you, there should be very few. If you realize that you and your needs are constantly being given low priority, it is time to divorce. Your spouse has already given up on the marriage in all but name. Prolonging it won’t change that fact.
7. Your Schedules Are Incompatible
An important part of marriage is spending time with your spouse. If both your schedules simply don’t allow you to spend time with each other, your marriage is in trouble. If you can both make reasonable compromises to rearrange schedules, that is great. But if it isn’t possible, you should end the marriage on the best terms possible.
A Divorce Lawyer Can Help
Some divorces are uncontested, meaning that each side agrees on all the issues (such as child custody and division of property) upfront. Others are contested, where these issues are not agreed-upon up front and must be resolved via proceedings such as mediation.
In a contested divorce, it can be critical to hire a reputable divorce attorney. An attorney can make sure that you are not taken advantage of during the divorce proceedings and can ensure your interests are fully represented.
The divorce process in Florida becomes complicated quite quickly; don’t go through it alone.
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